Picture this: a date night, a cozy setting, and a chance to peel back the layers of your love interest’s mind and soul. We’ve curated this fantastic collection of thought-provoking, deep, and playful questions that will spark conversations you never even knew were possible. Get ready to ignite the flames of curiosity, intimacy, and connection with this list.
Part I: Introduction Questions
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
- If you could send a letter to your past self as your present self, what age would you choose and what would you say?
- Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
- What are 5 positive characteristics you’ve noticed about me? (take turns)
- What are 5 positive characteristics you love about yourself? (You CANNOT use any of the traits mentioned in the previous question.)
- If you could choose a superpower, what would you choose?
- Do you believe there’s one person you’re ‘meant’ to be with?
Part II: “As a Person” Questions
- What is the most important goal you are pursuing at the moment?
- In what environments/situations are you the most like yourself? In what environments/situations are you least like yourself?
- How do you know when you’re doing the right thing with your life or on the right path?
- What do you want to change about yourself?
- What is the biggest misconception people have about you?
- What is the quickest way to get under your skin?
- What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
- What is your favorite thing to do in your spare time?
- What is the hardest decision you’ve ever made?
- What are some of the quirks that you have?
- When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
- What’s one thing you’ve never told anyone?
- What were you like as a child?
- What were your childhood aspirations, and how have they changed?
- What is your biggest insecurity?
- What is your religion, if any? Are you more of a spiritual or religious person?
- How do you like to be treated when you’re upset? Do you want to be held or left alone?
- What should you do more of? What should you do less of?
- Do you have any strange habits, tendencies, or things you obsess about?
- Do you prioritize your needs or do you tend to put the needs of others before your own?
- Are you the type of person that holds grudges or easily lets things go?
- What is your biggest pet peeve?
- What is your favorite time of year?
- Where is your ideal place to live? On a farm in the country, in a nice house on the water, or in a luxury downtown condo?
- What’s the most stress relieving thing you can get/do for less than $20?
- What do you want to get out of life?
Part III: Mindset Questions
- What experience in your life made you mature the most as a person?
- What is your greatest fear and your biggest desire?
- What’s the hardest truth you’ve come to grips with?
- What’s something you believe that most people disagree with?
- What is the process you go through in your mind before you make a decision?
- Is it hard for you to make up your mind? Once your mind is made up, how easy or hard is it to change it?
- If you were running for president, what are three key things you would include in your campaign?
- Do you follow your heart or listen to your brain when making important decisions?
- What are you afraid of and why?
- Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? Do you plan to do it in the future?
- For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
- What is your most treasured and most terrible memory?
- If you had an unlimited amount of money and resources, what would you do with them and why?
- Is there anything that often comes in between you and success?
Part IV: Experiences Questions
- What is the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
- What is your proudest moment?
- What amazing adventures have you been on?
- What is your ideal vacation?
- If we dropped everything and went on a road trip, where would you want us to go?
- Have you ever been to therapy? Would you go back?
- Have you ever been arrested? If not, if you ever were arrested, what would it most likely be for?
Part V: “Love & All That Jazz” Questions
- What relationship cliché do you think is true?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- How do you know that you are in love with someone?
- What is your greatest strength and weakness in a relationship?
- What do you value the most and the least in a relationship?
- What are the top 5 things you need in a relationship?
- What would a perfect day look like in your ideal relationship?
- What is the biggest sacrifice you’ve ever made for a relationship?
- Do you like to be in charge or are you okay riding in the passenger’s seat in your relationships?
- What relationship role do you want your partner to play in? What role will you play?
- How do you prefer daily communication to take place (text, call or in-person) when in a relationship and how many times a day is ideal for you?
- What is the best way to draw you closer to me in a relationship and what pushes you away?
- What are your views on the role of social media in your relationships?
- What are your dealbreakers in a relationship?
- Would you move to a different city or state for your partner?
- What are your views on sex within a relationship and how much do you need it?
- What are your views on marriage and how do you think you’ll know when you have met the right one to marry?
- Do you believe that unconditional love exists or is all love conditional?
- What are your views on long-distance relationships?
- What is your stance on maintaining communication with exes?
- What is your stance on your partner having friends of the opposite sex?
- What are the things your partner can do for you that makes you feel loved?
- What is more important in a relationship: an emotional connection or a physical connection?
- Out of your friends and family, whose relationship do you admire the most? Why?
- Besides I love you, what are three important words you should be careful to say in a relationship?
- What are the two biggest lessons you’ve learned from previous relationships?
- Do you think a relationship can recover from cheating?
- Have you ever been in an emotionally, verbally, or physically abusive relationship?
- What is your love language? (If you don’t know, take the quiz here.)
- What is your attachment style? (If you don’t know, take the quiz here.)
- What is your communication style? (If you don’t know, take the quiz here.)
- What is your communication technique? (If you don’t know, take the quiz here.)
- What is your listening style? (If you don’t know, take the quiz here.)
- What is your arguing style? (If you don’t know, take the quiz here.)
Part VI: Family Questions
- Who in your family do you think understands you the most?
- What are some of your favorite family traditions?
- What was your “identity” in the family? You know, some kids are the overachiever, or the goody-two-shoes, or the wild one, or the peacemaker. What was yours?
- How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
- Describe your relationship with your mother in 3 words? Describe your relationship with your father in 3 words?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
- How important is it that your family approves of the person you are dating or are going to marry?
- Do you have children? If no, do you want any and if so, how many? If you do have children, do you want more and if so, how many more?
- What are your thoughts on disciplining children?
- If you had kids or if you have kids, what is your biggest hope and biggest fear for them?
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