It’s time to separate fact from fiction and set the record straight on the big O. We’re on a mission to debunk those pesky orgasm myths that have been holding us back from reaching the peaks of pleasure. From the infamous “only penetrative sex can do the trick” to the mysterious notion that orgasms are a mystical unicorn only a lucky few can ride, we’re tackling it all.
Prepare to have your preconceived notions shattered, your pleasure pathways illuminated, and your confidence boosted to stratospheric heights. It’s time to leave those orgasm myths in the dust and step into a world of authentic pleasure, where you call the shots and the big O is your birthright.
1: Myth: Ejaculation and orgasm are the same thing
Truth: A woman can have an orgasm without ejaculating sexual fluids, and a woman can ejaculate juices and not have an orgasm. In regards to men, this is also true, but much less common.
2: Myth: It’s a man’s fault if a woman can’t orgasm
Truth: Many factors besides a man’s skillset explain why a woman can’t reach orgasm. There could be emotional blocks, stress, anxiety, unhealthy eating, fear of surrender, medical issues, and more hindrances. It could also be a woman not knowing her body well enough to give direction on bringing her to that peak of pleasure. We must take responsibility for our own orgasm and never blame someone else.
3: Myth: Masturbation messes up my chances of orgasm with a partner
Truth: It actually increases your chances because you’ll be more familiar with your body and what gets you to that peak of pleasure. That way, you can communicate what you need, and your partner will know how to give you endless orgasms.
4: Myth: It’s not normal if a man or woman doesn’t orgasm with penetration
Truth: There are some men that mainly orgasm through oral sex and some women that primarily orgasm with clitoral stimulation. This is normal too.
5: Myth: Sex is only good if both people orgasm
Truth: When I’ve asked women to think about the best sex they’ve ever had, only some of them experienced an orgasm with that person. Why? Because sex can still be extremely satisfying with or without an orgasm. While having an orgasm is marvelous, it should not be the marker of if the sex is good or not. Focus on intimacy and connection and let the rest follow.
6: Myth: There is something wrong if I don’t have an orgasm
Truth: While in some cases it can be a medical, emotional, or psychological issue, in other cases, it could just be that you haven’t explored your body to know how to make it happen. People will often depend on their partners to figure out how to make them orgasm, but you should figure that out yourself. Try masturbating, touching yourself, or even reading my blog.
7: Myth: It takes women longer to orgasm than men
Truth: It varies from each person. While some women require a more extended stimulation period, some don’t. Get to know your timing and pay attention to your partner’s timing.
8: Myth: It’s not possible for a man to orgasm with a condom
Truth: While many guys have used this excuse to experience skin-to-skin contact, that is an absolute myth. While condoms may reduce sensation, it is possible for a man to orgasm with one.
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Sources: Parenthood, Planned. “Orgasms.” Planned Parenthood, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure-and-sexual-dysfunction/sex-and-pleasure/orgasms.
Chatel, Amanda. “Will Masturbation Make Me Less Likely to Come during Sex? Nope, but Here’s How It’ll Affect You.” Bustle, Bustle, 7 May 2018, https://www.bustle.com/p/will-masturbation-make-me-less-likely-to-come-during-sex-nope-but-heres-how-itll-affect-you-9010777.
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